honest in word and action. Be honest first with yourself,
and you will more easily be able to be honest with others.
In the Anishinaabe language, this word can also mean “righteousness.”
The first statement doesn’t seem relevant to a discussion of honesty so much as it speaks to the interconnectedness of all of the Grandfathers’ Teachings. I will address this subject at the end of these blogs. I have clustered the blogs on the Grandfathers’ Teachings on a sub- subpage of Native Perspectives. For today we will discuss the subject of honesty.
Our society has mixed emotions about honesty “honesty is the best policy” is countered by the concept of “white lies”… kind of an end result justification for dishonesty. White lies are actually not necessary, your granny might have said, “If you can't say something nice don’t say anything at all.” You don’t have to lie…you just have to seek the good. Compliment the colour not the fit of your friend’s new dress or comment on the homely child’s beautiful eyes or sweet disposition; these are not lies, you are honestly focusing on what is good.
Too often people use, “I am just being honest” as an excuse to bully or abuse others. If you are using your honesty as a weapon to beat down other people; then it is time to be honest with yourself. What inadequacy are you feeling that has you seeing the world, so darkly? People, who are happy and fulfilled in their own lives, seek to share that joy with the rest of the world.
So what does it mean to live honestly? Walk your talk…first and foremost. Don Miguel Ruiz would say, “Be impeccable with your words.” Words have power; the words you use should reflect who you truly are… your value and your values. Maybe more important than being honest about who you are… is to be honest about the person you want to be. Then your talk can guide your walk into your TRUE self. As the Grandfathers have taught, being honest with you makes it easier to be honest with others.
You probably already know several good reasons to be honest on the 3-D level. If you cheat a person out of $10 your reputation suffers and soon no one will do business with you. If you are caught in a lie you damage the relationship you have with that person. Lies are harder to remember then the truth. If you don’t respect yourself enough to value your word (commitments) then how can you expect anyone else to respect you.
On a 5-D level this is even deeper. A policeman once asked me, “If I would lie for my friend”. I had to explain to him that lying is not something you do for someone; it is something you do to someone. Once we understand the interconnectedness of all things, we understand that every action (word or deed) has a ripple effect influencing everything else. Our path through this life allows us to encounter the experiences and people who serve our highest and best good. When we lie or act dishonestly we manipulate outcomes which may delay or completely misdirect us from our spiritual path. The life-path which results in achieving the abundance of Joy, Peace, Love, Wealth and Health that is our right as divine beings.
Have a joyous day.